Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Rules of Attraction

*** Quite a lengthy post, you have been warned***

Found an interesting website for video aside from Youtube.
It's VideoJug and with its catchy line
Life Explained On Film.
**the following videos and info are taken from VideoJug**


Previous post on Love

Love or Money

What is Love

Types of Love

So, you have this so called Love feeling. How do you determine whether he or she is attracted to you or not? Attraction is quite complicated stuff and the fact that opposite gender attracts each other is not a secret. =p

For Guys

VideoJug: How Can I Tell If She Is Attracted To Me?

Step 1:
The first glance
This is the most vital part of the process. If a woman likes you, expect her to hold eye contact for a few seconds longer than normal. If she finds you attractive, she will look away and then look back. If she then smiles, she probably fancies you.

Step 2:
Sub-conscious mirroring
When she starts to slightly copy your body movements and pace through sub-conscious mirroring, it usually means there is a degree of empathy there.

Step 3:
Change in posture
Most women have a screen saver pose, but when she sees someone she fancies, she will arch her back slightly as it creates a better body shape, making her automatically more attractive to members of the opposite sex.

Step 4:
Self-grooming gestures
These self checks will take place when she sees someone attractive. Therefore small, checking movements signal a degree of attraction.

Step 5:
Face softening
Normally women can look a bit angry or fed up without realising it. Yet when they see someone they fancy, their face softens and they look much more attractive. It is an animal signal of attraction, making her seem immediately more beautiful.

Step 6:
She will not just touch herself, but she'll touch you too in subtle ways whilst you are in conversation. This signals to other women that you are taken.

For Girls

VideoJug: How Can I Tell If He Is Attracted To Me?

Step 1:
The first glance
When your eyes meet, he should hold your eyes longer than the normal social space. He might look away, but then he'll look back quite quickly which shows that he is definitely interested.

Step 2:
The suppressed smile
When he sees someone he fancies, he can't help but smile, it's part of the attraction process. He will try and suppress that smile, which usually means he finds you very interesting.

Step 3:
Ownership gestures
If he wants your time and attention, he will want to single you out and separate you from the rest of the room. So expect to see things like him standing in front of you so other people can't see you, or him resting an arm over the back of your chair.

Step 4:
Animal signals
An alpha male will puff his chest out to look stronger when trying to impress a mate, therefore he might realign his posture slightly and widen his shoulders a bit when talking to you, showing he can take care of you if necessary.

Step 5:
Look at his eyes
He should look you straight in the eye when you are talking, showing his active listening signals. But his eyes will move down to your mouth and back up again, and this means he is probably thinking about kissing you.

Now that you think he or she is attracted to you, what should you do? Read on how to make the first move. =p

VideoJug: How To Make The First Move

Step 1:
Read the signals
Before initiating any kind of move, look for body language clues such as prolonged eye contact to help you work out whether you'll get a positive response.
A woman may be more willing than usual to expose certain areas of her body like her neck or wrists. She may touch you, or display self-grooming gestures.
A man may exhibit more animalistic signals or ownership gestures, to impress a potential mate. These may include resting an arm on the back of her chair, puffing out his chest or widening his shoulders.
Both sexes may engage in 'mirroring', which is subconsciously copying the actions of the other person's body positions.

Step 2:
If they find someone attractive, men and women won't necessarily say what they're really thinking. Instead of listening to what is being said, concentrate on how it is being said
If he says, 'I'm interested in art'. He may mean 'I am interested in you"
If she says, ' What's your favourite surrealist painting?'
She may mean, 'Are you genuinely interested?'
If he says, 'I love Dali's The Persistence of Memory'
He may mean, 'I'm trying really hard here because you're hot'
If she says 'I've got that on my bedroom wall'
She may mean 'I want you to see it'.

Step 3:
If the woman is making the first move
The male form is majestic, enticing and readily available.
Approach with free abandon and curious hands.
Be a predator. Remove any unnecessary items of clothing. The only potential problem that could arise will occur when choosing topics of conversation. Don't mention ex-boyfriends, health problems, or your imminent desire for babies.

Step 4:
If the man is making the first move
The female form is mysterious, enticing and notoriously difficult to get hold of. Approach with caution.
Certain parts of the body should not be touched initially, like the breasts or bum. Instead, try lightly touching less intimate areas of the body- such as the upper arm, or the outer leg nearest to you.

Step 5:
The kiss
If they haven't rejected your advances so far, then you can start to feel more confident about stealing a kiss. It takes guts to go for a kiss, and if you are feeling out of your comfort zone, try to relax, as lack of confidence is rarely attractive to the opposite sex. Maintain eye contact, lean in and pause when your faces are close but not touching, to allow the other person space to escape or, hopefully, lean in too.


Ok, now for this part those who are under the age 16, please do not continue further.
It involves lips, tongue, and saliva.

The kiss

VideoJug: How To Kiss Someone Passionately

Step 1:
Check your breath. If you are intending to kiss someone for the first time then avoid strong foods like onion, garlic or strong flavours, unless of course your partner has been indulging in the same foods. If in doubt about your breath, suck a breath mint. But remember to have swallowed this before you start kissing, or your partner will be very surprised, particularly if they don't like mint.

Step 2:
Be confident
Nothing ruins a kiss more than uncertainty. This confidence is essential, as hard as it is to get a kiss the first time, it will be harder to get one after a failed attempt. Once you have decide you are going to kiss someone, choose your moment and go for it.

Step 3:
The lips
It is best to start off simply. When it feels right, tilt your head slightly to one side to avoid clashing noses, lean in and press your lips onto your partner's lips, softly, so you don't bump teeth. If you do bump teeth accidentally, just carry on kissing.
Vary the amount you open your mouth, and the rhythm of your kisses. You may wish to use the tip of your tongue.

Step 4:
Advanced techniques
This style of kissing was not invented by the French, although they are probably quite good at it. It refers to the type of kiss where you insert your tongue deep into the other person's mouth and move it around.
It is perhaps best defined by what you should not do.
You should try to avoid swirling your tongue around aggressively like an electric eel caught in a fishing net, but equally you should not let your entire tongue go completely limp and floppy. If it feels right, you are probably doing it right.
As the kiss progresses you may want to move to the neck. Kissing and nibbling the neck is perfectly acceptable when snogging and is the reason for the term necking.
A love bite is a red mark left on the skin, usually the neck or shoulder, caused by excessive lip suction on the skin. It is, depending on your point of view, a charming memento of the kissing session or a repulsive and embarrassing bruise. It is best to discuss the giving or receiving of a love bite with your partner, before leaving one.

Step 5:
What to do with the rest of your body
This is really up to you. There are many things you can do to heighten a kiss, you can hold or stroke your partner's back, run your fingers through their hair, or feel other parts of their body.Who knows where this might lead.....
(Use your imagination, =p)
Well done, you are now kissing somebody passionately for the first time.....


There, done with the whole process.

Now, there is also this interesting video on how to tell if someone is lying.

VideoJug: How Can I Tell If Someone Is Lying To Me?

Now you will have to excuse me, I have lots of video I want to watch. =p


  1. HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Sorry~~I really could not help myself, the first video is really funny!

    I read something in MSN earlier like how girls should kiss men~~ Nyehehehehehe...I thought you were just going to copy/paste that article.

    For your reference-- http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=8955&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=10486


    When I read the advanced techniques-- ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

  2. the 1st video really ...wkakak..damn funny :D

    Hey, where you get these info de?
    hehe...practice 1st..kissing...hohohho....

  3. "helpful tips" huh ?? ;) hehe. very interesting indeed. *nodding* :D

  4. lol...cool post!
    hmnn, seems like u r an experienced fella!

  5. Eh?? Someone is interested in Body Language!
    You may want to check out NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)
    They have a lot of subtle techniques to get a message across someone.

  6. Hahahaha... I didnt watch the videos... but when you mentioned you have a lot of videos to watch and then the progress of the storyline... I only have one thing in mind about your video watching.


  7. LOL blogger who pro in "flirting" girl? You had listed out the possible techniques!

  8. 宝茹: No need to be sorry, it is funny. Yeah, advance techniques. Anyone to clarify? =p

    LukXiuFung: From VideoJug as what I stated. Have to give credit where it is due you know... =p

    levian: Interesting aye.... =p

    Nux V: Not to say experienced though....the info I got from VideoJug.. =p

    3POINT8: That have some debate I think, as there are people who doesn't believe in sending msg to someone and that someone will act accordingly... =p

    But interesting to know... Thanks

    Princess Eileen: Wah wah wah....no leh... You should go and watch some of the videos....hilarious... =p

    MerDuriaN: Actually not pro... =p
    And that is what i found at VideoJug not written by me... =p


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