Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Venting Anger Then Later Regrets

**Note Edit V1: Yay, my first post in year 2014. An improvement, No?**

Anger & Regrets

First post after so long and here I am trying to make amends to the things done that I now regret. Trying to make amends by writing a post in the long abandoned blog instead of making amends to the person involved. Wah lau eh, that is not right.

But one got to start somewhere to build up the courage to make amends directly aye? Perhaps it is the way of my family of not showing much emotions. Probably gentle loving emotional outburst is considered as a no no and rough loud angry emotional outburst is considered the way to show care and love albeit a little rough and maybe sadistic. Anyway, more on that in the future upcoming post...Cough** Cough**

To sum it up, this happens because of miscommunication and I should know better than to just lose my temper in anger and let loose those harsh words. Looks like I still have long way to go. Although I do believe that nothing can be solved by being angry and most of the time or make it all the time it is a double edged sword where you will hurt that person and yourself. Totally not worth it. Mantra to myself... Ohm~~~ Ohm~~~ Ohm~~~

Thinking back, what I should have done is to think about what I am going to say and only say it when I am not angry. Should not said it when I am angry because what comes out will be hostile no matter how. Walk away and be calm then demand an explanation why such thing happens. Explain expectation and what went wrong. Have two ways communication. Tolerance. Understanding. COMMUNICATE. What I need to do next is to swallow my pride, my ego and apologize to the person even if it is their fault. Be a better man. 

Well, easier said than done but it must be done. I am truly sorry. 

Here are some quotes on anger~~~ For me to build up courage to apologise.

Quotes on Anger 

Psalms 37:8 Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath!  Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.

Proverbs 15:18 A hot-tempered man stirs up strife,  but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.

Proverbs 29:22 A man of wrath stirs up strife, and one given to anger causes much transgression.

Proverbs 30:33 For pressing milk produces curds, pressing the nose produces blood, and pressing anger produces strife.

Proverbs 14:29 Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.

Proverbs 19:11 Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offence.

Ecclesiastes 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.

James 1:19,20 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. - Aristotle

Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. - Mahatma Gandhi

Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. - Mark Twain

The best fighter is never angry. - Lao Tzu

Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. - Leo Buscaglia

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are. - Cherie Carter-Scott

The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath. - Buddha


1 comment:

  1. ppl nvr win when they angry.. the best way is to cool down urself then only discuss n express ur opinion


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